I am always surprised at how fast autumn flies by. Granted, I live is southern California so the seasons don’t change THAT much, but still… It seems like I just get through with October and the year has ended. And I don’t have everything done that I want to have done.
This year has been a little bit better. I started out the year with some goals. I haven’t thought of them as resolutions but I guess that is most people would call them. My “theme” for my goals has been FREEDOM.
I recently got an email from a list I’m on suggesting that I start thinking about my New Year’s resolutions NOW. It made me go back and look at what my goals were and see if I made them. I have to say, I’m pretty happy with the results!
One goal I had was to gain physical freedom. I’ve pretty much made it to my goal! I’ve lost over 60 pounds, gone from a size 24 to a size 10, and will be in my first 5K at the end of this month! Even in high school, I NEVER ran a whole mile and I don’t think I’ve ever worn a size 10. To say I’m feeling good about this is an understatement!
I found that the goals that I made that were dependent on others had a higher failure rate. And I’ve learned to be OK with that. Sometimes people don’t share my vision and I just need to go on and think of how to reword/rework my goal so that it meets my need without imposing on others.
I also found that things came up that totally changed my direction in some areas. At the beginning of the year I had no idea I’d feel led to write a personal finance curriculum! But others goals that I made, led me to switch gears a little and it was a natural progression.
Saying no and letting things go also was a huge learning experience. I couldn’t do everything. At least not unless I cloned myself somehow! I have to work within my limitations and be OK with that. I had to prioritize.
So now, I am thinking about goals even earlier. I’m going to go through my list from last year and make new ones and come up with action plans to go with my plans. By the first of the year I will be ready to implement my plans to reach my goals. It is exciting to think that I might make even more of my goals if I am better prepared.
I don’t think January with sneak up on me this year!
Remember in the mid to late ’80s when getting your “colors done” was all the rage? My grandmother arranged for me and most of my cousins to get ours done and it changed my life. Funny how something like that can make such a big difference.
I have always been really close to my mom (as anyone who reads here knows) and as a kid and teen I always just wore the same colors as she did. I still like those colors but by getting my colors done, I was able to, in a way, become more of my own person.
My mother is a “summer” which means that she wears pastels… lots of pinks and blues. When I got my colors done, they found that I had more yellow in my skin tone so I looked better in “autumn” colors.. peaches and greens. Soon after I went through this process, I went away to college for the first time. Knowing I was wearing colors that were “mine” made me feel better about myself and made me feel very individual. It definitely helped my transition to adulthood. Might seem silly, but it did.
It has been thirty years since I got my colors done and I still think about them. I’ve recently lost a bunch of weight and had to replace my wardrobe. I shop almost exclusively at thrift stores and it is so much easier and faster to shop since I know what I look good in. I don’t even bother to look at something bright pink! By shopping at thrift stores and buying clothes that all go together, I have been able to put together a wardrobe that is fashionable at very little cost.
Well, I feel like my spring cleaning/clutter busting was a big success! My mom and I had a two day garage sale and, even without any really big ticket items, we made enough money that we a both happy about it. AND, everything that went out into the garage sale (except a few things we are going to sell on ebay) went to the Salvation Army for donation. Look! I have proof!
I feel like I have a weight off my shoulders! Now on to other things!
I have 3 days. ONLY 3 days! And I am determined to get rid of as much STUFF as possible. I’ve gone through my youngest son’s room and have a huge pile of toys and clothes that I’ll be selling at a garage sale this weekend. It feels good but I know I need to do more.
The overall theme of all my goals this year is freedom. I have goals for physical freedom, spiritual freedom, financial freedom, etc. The one I’m dealing with right now is freedom from clutter. I guess that would go under physical freedom.
While I was growing up we moved every few years. While that was kind of a pain, it did force us to go through all our things and weed out what we didn’t need/want just so we didn’t have to pack and unpack it. I’m glad my kids haven’t had to go through all those moves. We are going on nine years in our current home. The only challenge is giving them enough inspiration to go through all their things once in awhile! At his point using the word “inspiration” is a stretch. I think it is more fear of mom losing it…
Oh well, whatever works, right?
For the past several months I feel like I’ve been in survival mode. Between the deaths in my husband’s family (three in the last 5 months), getting J to college, and getting ready for school, I don’t feel like I’m getting anything done except what ABSOLUTELY has to be done. I’m just treading water and not making any progress. I don’t like this feeling and something must change!
I know what I need to do – de-clutter and make lists. This is what I always do when I’m feeling this way. It, unfortunately, is not an uncommon phenomenon. It hits me at least once a year, sometimes more; but rarely as hard as it has recently.
So, this is my plan… this is the first weekend in months that I don’t have anything planned or anyone visiting. I am going to hunker down and stay home and clean and fill up bags for a garage sale. I’m going to get the boys to help me do a deep cleaning of the house – something I was planning on doing BEFORE classes started. I’m going to make lists and start crossing stuff off.
One thing I know I must do that can’t really go on any list, is change how I am thinking and dealing with things. To get out of survival mode I have to get my thought out of there. Organizing my house and my life helps me organize my thoughts.
How about you? What do you do when you are where I am?
Well, at least they make mine go round! Homeschooling five boys for 10 years has had its challenges. Every one of those challenges has brought growth. One of the first things I realized when I started on this journey was that I had to put some systems in place or I would go stark raving crazy!
Let me back up a little… Before I started homeschooling I was doing OK but not great. I had my oldest in 1st grade and my twins were 4 and my youngest was 2. Things got a little crazy at times, and I was yelling – a LOT. Too much. At that point I was already planning on homeschooling the next year and my yelling was one of the main reasons I was thinking I shouldn’t do it. I didn’t like it and didn’t want to subject my sons to that 24/7. It was hard but I decided to change. I made systems, created order, established forms.
Systems or forms are the structure – the bones – underneath an organization (ie, government, business, home). I made some rules and systems so that my kids knew what to expect and I just had to apply them. Much less yelling was the result.
Fast forward to today. We have systems for cleaning the house, doing dishes, doing school, and helping my parents. Everyone knows what they are responsible for and what happens if they don’t follow through. I’ve added a 5th son to the mix, and it’s funny. He is SOOOOOO protective of his jobs. You disturb the system and he gets really upset! He is proud of what he does in our family – rightfully so!
Just recently we tweaked the system a little. We all understood how it was working so we were able to get in there and make some changes to it. My oldest son turned 18 and I wanted to relieve him of some of his responsibilities as he is really busy getting ready for college. My 4th son got to take over one of his jobs. He is actually excited about it! He knows it is a step up from his old job that his little brother has now taken over. He is even willingly training my youngest to do his old job.
Just think if we all understood the systems around us and could effect change in them! Just think what we all could accomplish!